Showing posts with label Sexologist Megan. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Sexologist Megan. Show all posts

5 Ways to Make Missionary Mind Blowing

This holiday season, we're being extra adventurous. But after trying all our other sex positions, we still kinda love missionary. Missionary can be mundane, but it doesn't have to be. Are you growing tired of your normal, missionary, sex routine? We love sex positions and updating the "vanilla", and sometimes boring, missionary position will definitely improve your sex life and keep things interesting and hot. Just because Freaky Friday has come and gone doesn't mean you can't mix in a little freakiness into an ordinary Monday! Go ahead and read these five variations of the standard missionary position from our Michigan-based Sexologist superstar, Megan Stubbs!

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Typically described as “man-on-top and woman-on-bottom," the missionary position classic go-to configuration is one that millions of couples have engaged in over the years. As legend has it, this position found its name from Christian missionaries because they believed this position to be the right, and only way, to have sexual intercourse. Other cultures, religions, and groups, have their own name for this position as well (the "angelic position" and "manner of serpents").

The missionary position is prized for its level of intimacy because of how close you can be with your partner. It's great for eye contact, kissing, and is fairly low impact. But if you’ve grown tired of the standard missionary, try out one of these five variations.

#1 A tight squeeze

Ladies once your partner is inside, both of you keep your legs together. Move your pelvis so it is slightly below his and have him give you deep thrusts and rock against your mons pubis. The increased tightness from your legs being together will feel great to him, and because you are positioned slightly below his pelvis, the base of his penis should rub against your clitoris.

#2 One flight up 

While on your back, bring your knees to your chest and have your partner enter you. Move your calves to rest onto his shoulders and have him brace himself with his hands by your side. This position is great for your man to run the show and leaves you open for deliciously deep penetration. Fun fact for this position: it is awesome for anal too!

#3 Give me props

Ladies, grab some pillows and prop them under your butt. Have your partner enter you and hold himself above you (think upward-facing dog) and have him give you slow deep circular thrusting motions. This position is great for him because he gets greater access to you and the angle at which your pelvis is at is perfect for G-spot stimulation.

#4 Erotic embrace

Ladies, this position plays out like standard missionary except you wrap your arms and legs around your partner. This position is great because it allows you to get maximum skin-on-skin contact with your partner. You are able to easily give kisses, whisper sweet nothings, and caress your partner's face. A rocking motion rather than thrusting can heighten the level of intimacy as well.

#5 Seeing stars

Begin having missionary style sex and as you approach climax, slide yourself to where your upper half is hanging off the edge of the bed. By now the blood should be rushing to your head and as you climax, you should experience an extraordinary sensation throughout your entire body. Don’t stay in this position too long because you may wind up seeing stars, literally, and pass out!

Cross posted with permission from the SexologistMegan Blog.

Dr. Megan Stubbs is a Grand Rapids-based Sexologist. She holds a doctor of education in Human Sexuality from San Francisco’s Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality and a degree in Biology from Grand Valley State University. She also Board Certified by the American College of Sexologists (ACS).

Dr. Megan is a firm believer that knowledge is power and that comprehensive sex education is not only valuable to budding teens, but to all of society. This Sexologist strives to break down the societal norms that sex is still a taboo subject and wants to normalize the conversation. She wants to empower everyone into taking control and respecting their sexuality.

Megan is monthly contributor to the number one night-time radio show in West Michigan, Holmes and the Freakshow on 104.5 WSNX and also appears bi-weekly on a morning talk show, Take Five & Company on WZZM 13. Follow Megan on Twitter @sexologistmegan and Facebook.
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Kiss Your Best! Try These 4 Tips


Kissing is wonderful foreplay! Kissing is the most common and publicly acceptable way for a couple to express their passion for one another. Whether you're 16 and going to see a movie with someone from school or married for 25 years and with kids, smooching never seems to get old. In this article, Dr. Megan Stubbs offers some advice on the benifits of kissing and making your next kiss the best one possible. Read on!

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In our culture, kisses play an important role in our younger years. We are told about how our “first kiss” should be and we come up with all kinds of crazy ways to get them. Spin the bottle anyone?

It’s OK if your first kiss wasn’t great! Not all first kisses are great. How was yours? Was it mind blowing, or were you so nervous that you thought you were going to throw up? Either way, it was a learning experience for you and now you know what you like or don’t like. There will be more, trust me, both good and bad.

Kissing comes with many health benefits too:

Over 30 facial muscles are involved in making a kiss happen. Using these muscles can help keep your cheeks tight and in perfect pucker shape.

Looking to burn some calories? While kissing, you can burn up to 3 calories per minute. I know its menial, but it is still a win-win.

Stressed out? Try kissing. Oxytocin, otherwise known as the love hormone, is released when you kiss and can help aid in calming you down as well as reaffirm your romantic attachment to your partner.

Some suggestions to make your next kiss unforgettable:

#1 Use a breath mint first

So, maybe this isn't always an issue. But sometimes bad breath can kill a kissing moment. Make sure you have good breath. Bad breath could hint to your partner that you are bad with oral hygiene, so make sure you’re freshly brushed or throw a mint in.

#2 Tongue first? No, no!

Don’t go in tongue first! Start with light kisses that just barely brush your partner’s lips. Once things have progressed, feel free to increase the intensity of your kiss. Pretend you’re licking an ice cream cone for a guide to the right pace; slowly and sensuously.

#3 Try opening your eyes

Go ahead and take peek! We’ve all heard the rule “no eyes open during kissing” and its time to throw that out. Don’t worry that it might be weird because of your face placement; open your eyes during your kiss to make a special connection with your partner.

#4 Explore the map

Explore the map. No one said kisses are limited to the lips alone. Take a journey around your partner’s body with kisses. Some often overlooked erotic areas are behind the ear, elbow creases, behind the knee, and feet. Try different areas and find out where your partner’s special zones are. They could surprise you!

So whether you cheek kiss, air kiss, kiss someone’s hand, Eskimo kiss, blow kisses, sign kisses, or just eat them, they’re an easy way to show someone your affection. And when it comes to sex, everything is OK here. Also, mark your calendars. International Kissing Day is July 6th!

Cross-posted with permission from SexologistMegan.

Dr. Megan Stubbs is a Grand Rapids-based Sexologist. She holds a doctor of education in Human Sexuality from San Francisco’s Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality and a degree in Biology from Grand Valley State University. She is also Board Certified by the American College of Sexologists (ACS).

Dr. Megan is a firm believer that knowledge is power and that comprehensive sex education is not only valuable to budding teens, but to all of society. This Sexologist strives to break down the societal norms that sex is still a taboo subject and wants to normalize the conversation. She wants to empower everyone into taking control and respecting their sexuality. Megan is monthly contributor to the number one night-time radio show in West Michigan, Holmes and the Freakshow on 104.5 WSNX and also appears bi-weekly on a morning talk show, Take Five & Company on WZZM 13. Follow her on Twitter @sexologistmegan and 'Like' Megan on Facebook.
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Lube 101: Wetter is Better


Our bodies are perfectly capable of providing us the tools for awesome sex. However, sometimes our bodies' natural lubricants just don't make for awesome intercourse in a pinch. (Think of the long, drawn out foreplay needed to get really wet, ladies.) As Megan Andelloux, the Founder and Director of the Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health, said in, "It's easy to have not enough lube and harder to have too much". In this article, Dr. Megan Stubbs offers useful advice on kinds of lubricants, how to use them best and tips on finding the right lube for you.

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It’s time, once and for all, to finally dispel the myth that lube is only for older women! Sorry Superbad, but Evan was right to be packing some lube for his sexual adventure with Becca.

Biologically, we naturally lubricate when we are sexually aroused. The lubrication produced helps facilitate sexual intercourse by reducing friction between the vagina and penis. But we don’t only have PV sex, and not all of us are having sex just to procreate. We engage in all kinds of sexual activities and most of the time our natural lubrication can’t keep up with the duration of our sex sessions. The use of lube is NOT a sign that you aren’t turned on enough or a cop out. Lube is a great staple to include in your solo and partnered sex life.

Like the colors of the rainbow, lube comes in many different varieties. Lubes can be water, silicone, or oil based - each with their benefits. Some things to keep in mind while lube shopping:

Flavored lubes, usually water based, are great for oral sex although I would caution you to try them before you buy them. You don’t want it to taste like cough medicine, unless that is your thing. You can usually find small sample sized packs of lube, flavored and regular, in stores. Think of it like bulk candy, buy a bunch and see which ones you like!

I would not recommend pairing oil based lubes with latex condoms because it can compromise the latex leading to breakage. Not good. Use water or silicone based lubrication instead.

Silicone lube is great for extended play and anal because it won’t dry out as quickly as water based lubricant.   The taste, however,  can be unpleasant and clean up can be a little more involved. It is latex friendly but do not pair it up with a silicone sex toy. The two together will cause your toy to disintegrate and become sticky and no one likes a sticky dildo.

Some lubes are touted as “anal specific” because they contain the numbing chemical benzocaine.  I do NOT recommend the use of these and you shouldn't want these kinds of lubrication. You need to know when something is hurting and being numb in the rear region can lead to injuries.  Plus sex is about pleasure.  I doubt using a numbing agent is anything close to an ideal sexual encounter.

New to the market are organic and natural lubes, and no, these aren’t just for tree-huggers and hippies. These lubes are great if you have chemical sensitivities to paraben or glycerin. They are also good if you are prone to yeast infections because of the sugars in regular lube. And for the animal lovers, they now make vegan lube too.

So next time you’re about to get down, reach for some lube. Whether it is a solo or partnered session, make sure you are adequately lubricated. Put a few drops inside of the condom before you put it on your partner for added sensation for them or try some warming lube to keep things hot. If you’re feeling a little dry its ok to stop and add some more lube to the party. The possibilities are endless. Find out what works for you, and when it comes to sex, everything is OK here.

Cross-posted with permission from SexologistMegan.

Dr. Megan Stubbs is a Grand Rapids-based Sexologist. She holds a doctor of education in Human Sexuality from San Francisco’s Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality and a degree in Biology from Grand Valley State University. She also Board Certified by the American College of Sexologists (ACS).

Dr. Megan is a firm believer that knowledge is power and that comprehensive sex education is not only valuable to budding teens, but to all of society. This Sexologist strives to break down the societal norms that sex is still a taboo subject and wants to normalize the conversation. She wants to empower everyone into taking control and respecting their sexuality. Megan is monthly contributor to the number one night-time radio show in West Michigan, Holmes and the Freakshow on 104.5 WSNX and also appears bi-weekly on a morning talk show, Take Five & Company on WZZM 13. Follow her on Twitter @sexologistmegan and 'Like' Megan on Facebook.
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